The Need For Appreciation
It’s really important for INFJs to feel appreciated. They need to feel that you are appreciating all of their efforts. Basically, they greatly appreciate feeling appreciated.
When they like somebody, INFJs are good at giving a lot of attention to that person. They kind of zone in and analyze the person, observe and learn all about them. Because they can easily read other people’s emotions, they don’t have the problem of not being sure of if someone likes them back. An INFJ probably knows if you like them before you know if you like them or not, which makes it easier for them to initiate and go for it, so they seem not so introverted. They’re fine initiating with somebody that they really want and are interested in because they can read that other person. Did they like that? Are they interested back? Do they like me, too? Do they like, like me?
There is a metaphor that I came up with for INFJs, and that’s that INFJs are like avocados. Avocados are soft on the outside, but they have this hard core that’s very dense. That’s my metaphor for INFJs because of the high extroverted feeling that appears very warm to people, but the cold analytical Ti core that they really value. That Ti can appear cold and dispassionate.