How INTJs Approach Relationships
Once they observe and analyze their crush and are confident that they will agree to a date, INTJs like to directly ask the person out. They don’t beat around the bush and prefer to get things out in the open. For dates, INTJs prefer to keep the setting casual and the conversation deep. They want to get to know the person for real with little formality. However, they will still try to impress their crush with their intelligence and skills.
INTJs are goal-oriented people and look at their relationships the same way. They want to work on the relationship and grow together. Stagnation is not an option and they want to see that the relationship is slowly reaching the state they have envisioned. INTJs want to optimize everything in their lives, including their love life. So, they seek out problems in the relationship to fix them. They’re not the types to sweep problems under the rug. Instead, they bring issues to light to confront and fix directly. They’re not idealists but have high standards and vision for where they want the relationship to be. If it’s not there, it needs to be worked on.
When You Get on the INTJs Bad Side
INTJs highly value loyalty as they focus on long-term commitment and look for patterns of behavior. Even a hint of disloyalty is enough to make them question the long-term viability of a relationship. So, they can present at times as a bit paranoid and controlling in a relationship. They want to know everything that’s going on if they feel insecure. A pattern of honesty and trust can help alleviate their natural anxiety towards disloyalty. INTJs typically aren’t ones for ghosting but if they see a pattern they don’t like they will bluntly end a relationship. It may seem they have no remorse but it hurts them greatly.